There’s a similar trick to use when something is worrying you. It works well for me, when I’m nervous about a race, track workout or whether or not I can keep my pace on a long training run. Just change “nervous” or “worried” to “care about.” Then say it out loud, to yourself or anyone who will listen!
Before: “I’m nervous about my race next weekend.”
After: “I care a lot about my race next weekend.”
The key is in what comes next. When you are nervous about something, there’s really no action implied other than worrying, fretting, and getting yourself worked up. But when you care a lot about something, you are more likely to give that event the time and attention needed for the desired result.
Let’s look at it again:
Before: “I’m nervous about my race next weekend. I can hardly eat and I don’t know how I’ll sleep the night before.”
After: “I care a lot about my race next weekend. I am going to stick to my training plan and plan a really good menu for this week so I don’t have any GI issues on race day.”
Granted, you can still say you’re “nervous” or “worried” and have a plan of action. But by focusing on the positive, action-oriented things you can control, you’re putting your energy towards good emotions instead of wasting energy on the negative.
This will work in other aspects of your life, too. For example, change “I’m worried about how I can afford Christmas gifts this year” to “I care about giving my family a good Christmas experience this year, so I’m going to save $20 per week and plan some non-gift activities to make it extra special.” Or maybe, “I’m worried about my friend’s wife that is really sick” to “I care about my friend and his wife, so I’m going to cook them dinners and help out with yard work while she is recuperating.”
Try it. It’s a little thing that can change your perspective … something you “Get to” do to reduce your stress levels!